Monday, November 14, 2011
Who's Pulling Your Puppet Strings- Assistance or Hindrance?
I realized about a week ago I have very few friends. I sat down to dig deeper into my memories of yester-years to reflect on the friendships I used to have. I realized as I matured my choice in friends did not. I looked at the people I gravitated to and I was shocked at what I was drawn to. The past few years I can say I have had only two friends. It took for me to experience a low point in my life to realize who my true friends were. It hurt me deeply to know that the people I would willingly give my last too. Were the ones pulling the strings on my puppet. It has made me very distrustful of peoples motives. It has taken a long time for me to really notice the link between reflection and perception. I used to be friends with people that did not have the same values and morals that I held. I would constantly say when people asked me. Why I could associate with such people. I remember saying "what they do is their business and has no reflection on me." People perceive you to be a certain way if they have meet someone you associate with. Regardless, if you want to admit it or not our friends are reflections of us. I want to be successful. So for me I know that a big part of success is to surround yourself with positivity. I refuse to be friends with someone that is hindering me. Hinder is a obstacle or impediment. Sometimes our associates, families, and friends can become a hindrance to us. We exert so much energy into holding onto relationships that are dead weight we often sink ourselves. I have learned to ask myself is this person a assistance or a hindrance to me. It is so easy to be negative but it is often a daily up hill battle to be positive. I prefer to surround myself around those that have similar values and morals as I do. Positivity, is a assistance everyone could use more of. Ask yourself this do I currently hold relationships with people that are hindering me? Am I a hindrance in my relationships?